今晚小霸王有P1 Preparatory Class而我也借着2小时的空挡上瑜珈课,过后就在家附近的购物中心逛,买了他爱吃的芝士香肠就去带他,打算奖励他。
下课了,补习老师牵着一个小女孩出来,她在哭,老师看到我就摇头,心想又闯祸了。
师:I don't know what to say, Edmund pinched this girl's hand till skin peel off & swollen.
我:What happened?
师:Edmund pinched this girl, I scolded him and ask him to come out to talk to me, he said don't want to listen to me angrily. I did not see the girl do anything to him & yet he can pinch her. 难道被冤枉?不然他怎么会那么生气呢?(心想)
同学们都纷纷告诉我小霸王还在课室里,不一会,他出来了,一看到我就躲在我后面,老师叫他解释他显得很生气,根本都不理她。我问他发生什么事,他看了老师一眼就别过脸不说话。
师:I think you ask him later at home and see what he says. I don't know what's your way, do you spare the rod? Some children needs to go by that method but if you feel the pinch then no choice, what about his dad, does he cane?
我:No, We did before but realise that the more we cane, the more stubborn he is, so from then on, we have stopped.
师:(冷笑)Then see how you deal with him, it's not good to have this attitude, he's going P1 next year, how is he going to mix around with friends? He shouldn't have pinched the girl for nothing.
听了老师的话后,觉得她似乎对小霸王存有偏见,事情发生就一口咬定是小霸王的错。为了了解事情的经过,走在回家的路上问他。刚开始他还是不肯说,只好解释给他听,不管发生什么事,对方做或说了什么,只要是谁先动手打人,就是不对,任何他不喜欢别人对他做的事,别人也是会不喜欢的。他还是显得很不服气,就告诉他,常常被老师投诉他的不是,我听了会很难过,因为是我教得不好而造成他那么不乖,他听了红了眼睛说不是,接着又说:“Is she started it first, she spitted saliva on my hand.”“Then why when Teacher Jasper asked, you didn't explain?”他说:“Teacher scolded me so I don't want to talk to her.”看来是因为老师一开始就说他错令他很生气,所以就更不想解释。
小霸王不愧是小霸王,脾气还真倔,既然说他错,就怎样也不解释,该说他傻呢还是有性格?常常因为朋友的一些小动作或话惹了他,他就还手被逮到因而被罚。现在托儿所的老师开始了解他,都会先问到底发生什么事,让他发言,即使被罚他也心服口服。